I consider myself a good friend. A very good friend. I think that those who know me well would agree. I'm usually everybody's sounding board, the one you come to for advice or if you just need somebody to listen. I work hard to maintain my friendship's and keep in touch with people. I have a lot of acquaintances but I have a handful of REALLY GOOD friends. And it seems to me that suddenly, without any warning, that circle is decreasing. And for the life of me I don't know WHY.
There are a few people whom I have developed very fun friendships with over the last year. We were brought together by life's circumstances and just really hit it off. I didn't think they were superficial friendships. We hung out, we did stuff, we emailed, talked on the phone. I got to know them, they got to know me. We were friends. But suddenly we aren't. Calls aren't returned, emails ignored, texts not responded to. Is it because I'm suddenly not able to party with you? Because that's when it seemed to start. So is our friendship based on a glass of wine? If so I seriously misjudged the situation.
There are other friends that I was really worried about telling I was pregnant. Because knowing how they are I really thought it would change them. NOT ME. Them. Does being pregnant change certain things, yes. But not who I am fundamentally. I'm still the same girl that has spent countless hours listening to you and being there for you. I still WANT to be there for you. And I want to share this with you. I don't sugar coat anything so I want to share all the nitty gritty with you if you want it! Just because we aren't in the exact same place in our lives doesn't change my feelings for you or our friendship. Just as me getting married didn't! Your fear changed our friendship not me!
And then there are those who have simply decided they are too busy for me. Ouch. I'm busy too. I work too. I do most of the same things you do. But I'm still trying. I'm still reaching out. What's your excuse? No one has stepped up to tell me if I have done something wrong. I'm not aware of it if I did. If I did know about it I would apologize. I don't want to lose friends. I love my friends. You mean the world to me.
It is hurtful. Here I am going through the biggest thing that has ever happened to me and to feel rejected hurts even more now. Especially because I DON'T KNOW WHAT I DID.
I am not going to belittle what some of my friends have done. Some of you have become even better than I ever imagined (I'm looking at you TU). And I'm so, so thankful for you. I want you to know that. But when people walk away from you with no rhyme or reason or explanation it just hurts.